As you may know, I am a writer in residence for the beautifully designed companion platform Tryst. I’ve written on all sorts of topics from the role of companions in classical art, to why the perfect email is the perfect foreplay. Have a read of my articles for Tryst, and my writing for their sub-series, The Good Client Guide.
What makes a good submissive? Is it the willingness to say ‘I’ll do anything you want me to, mistress?’ Or is it something a little deeper?
Many men possess a secret desire to submit to a powerful woman, especially a curvy mistress such as myself. Yet so many men hold themselves back from fulfilling this fantasy! They fear that if they want to be good submissives, they’ll have to they give up all control to their dominatrix. Understandably, they fear feeling unsafe. That’s especially true if the sub and domme are new to each other, or if the sub is new to BDSM altogether.
Let me let you in on a secret. Being a good sub isn’t about suffering through kinky acts you don’t enjoy for the sake of your mistress. In fact, what makes a good sub isn’t even particularly about kinky acts. Being a good sub is about mutual communication, care, respect, and being willing to let go. From this baseline, a sub and his domme can enjoy a world of tantalising pleasure – and delicious pain …
Want to know more of what I mean? Then have a read of my newest article for Tryst’s The Good Client Guide, ‘How to be a good sub‘.
Do let me know what you think. And if you’d like to make your fantasy a reality, you know where to find me …
Tulsi x
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