I imagine you’ve spent a lot of time looking at your favourite companion’s profile before you contact her. Gleaning as much as you can from her website, her blogs, and of course, her Twitter. Perhaps ascertaining what she likes, what she doesn’t, what kind of experience makes her happy. Now you’ve bit the bullet, gotten in touch and arranged a date. Your calendar has marched by, and today’s the day. You arrive a little early at the restaurant, gift carefully picked out and in hand. Just as you start to relax into your drinks, you spot me across the room. We immediately lock eyes – and its meant to be. We exchange warm smiles as I walk over, eyes only for you. My soft lips brush against yours, and I lean in. ‘How are you?’ I ask, softly. I really, genuinely want to know all about your day. You want to answer – but as you open your mouth, its a little dry. You’re nervous …
Feeling nervous when seeing a companion is completely normal! All the more so if this is the first time you’re meeting, or if this is your first time with a companion, or a woman, at all. You might be feeling anxious about whether you’ll be entertaining enough, or handsome enough, or pleasing enough in bed – in short, whether you’ll be enough at all.
Paradoxically, feeling nervous when seeing a companion is all the more reason to see one. Companions are experts at making those around them feel instantly comfortable. Just as feeling tense is a sign to get a massage, feeling nervous, is a sign that the warm, relaxed experience forged between escort and date is all the more needed. My suitors often comment on my calm nature, and soft, soothing voice. I love seeing my dates transform from feeling anxious to giggly, chatty, and truly themselves in my company, like a muscle knot relaxing under oil. As Catherine Price writes in ‘The Power of Fun‘, the day-to-day working world has much to give, but we often have to put on a shell to get through it. My favourite thing about my role as a companion is taking that shell off with another, and truly enjoying a genuine connection.
Of course, there are wonderful ways to build that genuine connection, and release nervousness. If you book a rushed experience with a companion to ‘get it over with’ you will likely feel rushed and stressed. Like a chrysanthemum slowly blooming in flower tea, the emotional and physical connection between you and your favourite companion needs to form organically. I’ve found that the best way to do this is to invest in a social experience that brings you closer together. Whether its the spa, dinner lit by Michelin starlight, or simply unwinding with room service, my dates always comment that taking the time to get to know each other completely elevates our shared experience. I’ve written about my favourite dates in London for inspiration. But whatever we choose, its sure to be the key to unlocking that next level of relaxation for the both of us. And if you’d like to go step further, I have a guide on how to be an ideal client right here.
Its often once we feel relaxed that we want to indulge in some carnal delights … and that’s when nerves can set in the most. A few of my suitors sometimes express anxiety about not being able to perform the way they feel that they should. But this is real life, not a movie. There’s no need to follow scripts. Its far more real, and more satisfying, to let the connection between us flow naturally. I delight in creating a purely non-judgemental, loving mutual experience. Its when we trust in the authentic connection between us that physical delights arise naturally. Its here that nerves transform into a jolt of excitement, to throes of pure passion. And that’s so much more delicious.
So, back to our restaurant. You’ve opened your mouth, and its a little dry. Intuitively, I smile and take your hand. My hand is soft, and warm. Without saying a word, your nerves melt away. The noise around us melts away, too. Its just us – my dark, lash-framed eyes, smiling plump lips, and glowing, caramel curves in front of you, reducing the chaos around us to just peace. You feel yourself melting into our connection, the weight of the day slipping away, the night stretching out into the promise of pure ecstasy. You smile back – and we start to talk.
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